True Goal

This brings into play another important element of conversion. Though others may assist in our discernment, and discerning the Lord's Will is mandatory, the implementation is best if it is initiated by our own volition. We must desire, own, and embrace the change we seek. True and lasting conversion always comes from within.

Another aspect of continual conversion is that external change, such as changing an undesirable behavior, is not the real goal. The real goal comes in examining the interior attitude that allows and fosters that behavior. A change in our attitude, or viewpoint, makes the external changes possible and manageable.

To make this clear, let's consider an example: the problem of gossip. Why does a person gossip? Is it a desire to fit in with a group? Then there may be a deep sense of unbelonging, or a lack of courage. Is it a desire to cover up our own inadequacies? Then there's a lack of honesty and humility. Is it a desire to feel superior? Then, the attitude is one of pride and a lack of love.

In each of these cases our goal needs to be a change in our internal attitude. Then, the external behavior will change by itself, because an interior change always has exterior manifestations. And, similarly, in regard to conversion, a change toward virtue and holiness automatically fosters a behavior that reflects a greater similarity to Christ.